UNITY SAND CEREMONY
The history of a sand ceremony has been attributed to indigenous customs in Hawaii. The blending of sand from two vases into one vessel represents the blending of two special lives into one beautiful life. Two smaller vases filled with two different coloured sands represent the individual life and love that each bring to their relationship as individuals; and one empty central vessel where the sand is united. The idea of combining the sand into one results in it never able to be separated – and is a powerful metaphor for the lasting legacy of a marriage.
A sand ceremony typically involves three decorative vessels. One of the sand ceremony vessels is larger, empty, and is the container into which the couple will pour. One smaller vase holds the sand that represents one partner, and another smaller vase holds the sand that represents the other partner. Typically, the couple choose two different colours of sand – so to easily distinguish between the two.
Using their individual vases, the couple will each add their own sand to the larger vessel, representing how although they travel the same path hand in hand as one, their individual identities, that drew them to each other initially, will remain strong and unique.
The sand in the centre vase represents the foundation of love, respect and friendship that will forever rest at the base of their relationship. It's a beautiful and romantic way to create a lasting symbol of the wedding.
WHEN & HOW
The ritual itself would take place after the vows & ring exchange during your ceremony. The Officiant will give a brief explanation initially to the guests – so they understand what is happening and the meaning behind the ritual.
If using the sand ceremony to replace a unity candle ritual, couples may want to incorporate their families into ceremony, as well. This can be done by having a parent (or both) of the couple each pour sand representative of their families & the basis of the marriage, into the bottom of the main vase. Or, by asking the parents to give the sand to the couple before the ritual begins.
The sand ceremony is also a perfect substitute for the unity candle lighting if your ceremony is being held outdoors – as candles can easily be blown out!
Coloured Sand Available from A Beautiful Ceremony
White, Yellow, Orange, Pink, Red, Purple, Green, Blue, Brown, Black, Natural
It is very important to check with us for availability of colours!
We have a selection of jars which are used for the central vessel (and small pouring vases which can be borrowed for the ceremony).
Once the sand is poured, the jar is sealed – so the sand is safe inside. The jar is then packed in bubble-wrap and paper for you.
(NB: the jars are glass and do require care when handling, as they are heavy. Once the jar is sealed, it is advised to not; attempt to open, tip, shake, invert or (obviously) drop them – as the sand may shift and therefore you would lose the lovely pattern).
Price is €30 per jar plus two different colours of sand.
Additional colours of sand incur a small charge of €2.50 per colour.
Jars available from A Beautiful Ceremony;
From left to right;
Cork Rope Status Clip Bubble Apothecary
**The “Cork” jar is the largest of all. This is really only suitable for x4 participants or more
Above jars are currently available for purchase from A Beautiful Ceremony
Availability does change however – so please check with us to ensure we have your choice in stock!!
EXAMPLE WORDING FOR UNITY SAND RITUAL
(Officiant): Today, (name & name), have chosen to commemorate their marriage through the celebration of a Sand Ceremony. This ceremony symbolizes the inseparable union of (name & name) into a new and eternal marital relationship. (name & name) will simultaneously pour separate containers of sand into a common vessel. Each grain of sand in their separate containers represents a unique and separate moment, decision, feeling or event that helped shaped (name & name) into the separate and unique individuals that they are today. As they pour their separate containers of sand into a common vessel, those separate and independent individuals will cease to exist. Instead they will merge into a loving and supportive marital community. (name & name), just as the grains of sand can never be separated into their individual containers again, so will your marriage be.
(Officiant): (name & name), you have just sealed your relationship by giving and receiving of rings and the exchange of a kiss, and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of our lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of two individual containers of sand one, representing you (name) and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be. And the other representing you, (name), and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be, united as one for all of your days.
(Officiant): (name & name), you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings - this promise is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives.
The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand one, representing you, (name) and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, (name), and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be.
As the sand from the two containers merge and are poured into one, the individual will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as the grains of sand can never be separated so will your marriage be, united as one for all of your days.
(Officiant): (Name & name) may your love always be as constant as the never-ending waves, flowing endlessly from the depths f the sea. Just as the waters touch and nourish the many shores of the earth, may your love be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Just as there will never be a morning without the ocean’s flow, there will never be a day without your love for each other. You have just sealed your relationship by giving and receiving of rings. This beautiful union is symbolized through the combining of these two individual shells of sand The first shell represents you, (name) and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, (name), and all that you are were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be.
Each one holds its own unique beauty, strength, and character. They can stand on their own and be whole, without need of anything else. However when these two are blended together they create and entirely new and extraordinarily more intricate entity. Each grain of sand brings to the mixture a lasting beauty that forever enriches the combination. Please pour the sand into this common container to symbolize the union of your tow lives. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individually container, so will your marriage be a cast of two individual personalities, bonded together forming one heart, one life.
Including Family / Children in the Sand Ceremony
If either partner has children from a previous marriage, or if they already have children together, it's important to include the children in the wedding to show their importance in the couple's future. The sand ceremony is a perfect way to show children that they are an important part of their parents' lives and to give them a role on the big wedding day.
During the wedding, the couple pour in their sand first as the foundation of their relationship and the symbol of their love and marriage. Then each child can be invited to pour in his or her own sand. Finally, the vase is topped up by the newlywed couple until it is full.
Children will usually want their own colour of sand, and it can be fun for them to help choose the colours and vases that will be used during the wedding. It's a simple ritual that nevertheless invites the couple's children – or any other significant relatives, like the parents of the couple – to participate in the couple's vows to one another and in their future lives together.
Family Option #1
Today, (Name & name), you are making a commitment of your eternal love for one another as well as to your children [Name all Children of couple]. As you each hold your sand the separate containers of sand represent your lives to this moment; individual and unique. As you now combine your sand together, your lives also join together as one, as a family.
(Name & name) you come here today from two different families. From these two families a new family will be created today. At this time, I would invite the parents of (name & name) to come forward. These two vials of sand represent each family. Now the parents will take their sand and simultaneously pour the sand into the unity bowl symbolizing the uniting of the two families into one.
Family Option #2
Now we will celebrate the creation of a family. The (three/four/etc.) vials of sand here represent (name & name) and (child/children/family members). As each pours in the sands, they show how the individual colours create a beautiful masterpiece of love and mutual respect. Just as the sands are forever intermixed, so are the lives of the people being celebrated today. As we join this couple in marriage, we are also reminded of the significant role that (child/children/family members) play in this marriage. Today, a new unified life is shared within this family.
Family Ceremony #3
(Name & name) today you join your lives together. These bottles of sands of various colours symbolize your individual spirits of you and that of (childs/childrens’ name). Each container is unique, representing who you are. As these containers of sand are poured into the larger vase, the different colours will join together to form something quite beautiful. You are joined together today, not only in marriage, but as family.
Family Ceremony #4
Today as (Name & name) have sealed their commitment to each other with the exchange of rings they to make a commitment to their child/children. We recognize the significant role that (all of children’s names) play in this marriage celebrated today. They will now join (name & name) in this commitment to each other by contribution a part of each individual person into one blended family.
Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of this sand, each representing a member of the family. As each individuals sand is poured into the family’s one united vase, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will become the bond with your family.