COMMUNITY/GUEST VOW

 

As you both are saying promises and vows to each other during your ceremony - you might have the officiant address your guests and invite them to also make a vow of support to you both. After all, it is within the context of this community that your marriage will be enacted.

Many couples like to take this option as an alternative to the old tradition of “giving the bride away” – as it is more encompassing of ALL your family & friends giving their verbal acknowledgment of you both.

 

Example 1 

(Officiant);  (said to the guests)

Today, you have come here not simply to witness our couple's union, but to take part in it.

Each of you represents not only yourself, but all of the people who have and will touch the lives of (name & name). Your support has helped their relationship to flourish, and the joy that you all bring into the couple's lives keeps them going.

 

(Name & name) have asked all present to take vows as well, to pledge your support and love for them as they embark upon this new path together.

After I have spoken these vows, please answer with “We will.”

 

“Everyone gathered here today, before you stands two people who love you very much.

Do you promise to encourage and inspire their dreams?

To accept them not only as individuals, but as a couple?

To be their friends and their support, today and everyday to follow?

(Guests Response); We Will

 

Example 2

 

(Officiant);  (  Now that you have heard (name & name) recite their vows, do you, their family and friends, promise, from this day forward to encourage them and love them, and to help guide and support them in being steadfast in the promises they have made?

 

If you do this, please say, 'We do" 

(Guests Response); We do

 

Example 3

 

(Officiant);  (said to the guests)

(name & name) would like to ask you, their family and friends, to support them in keeping the vows they make to each other today.

They ask you to uphold them in loving each other, stand beside them, listen to them when they ask your advice, and offer them your encouragement and your love.


In these ways you can honour this marriage, into which they have come to be joined today
Do you offer your love and support to strengthen their marriage and bless this family created by their union?  Please answer by saying “We do”

(Guests Response); We do

 

Example 4

 

This example would be assisted by having the vow printed in your ceremony program, or a small card pre-printed for guests to hold onto until needed.

 

(Officiant);  (said to the guests)

(name & name) as that you, as their treasured family & friends, would join with them in saying a community vow.  They hope that together with your love and support, their marriage will be strengthened and continue to blossom and prosper.

 

Please see the vow that you have been given, and together we will read this aloud;

 

We the people gathered here to celebrate the marriage of (name & name)
Promise that we will walk with them thorough their life's journey.
As far as we are able we will share in their happiness and achievements.
We will celebrate with them as they celebrate, laugh as they laugh and give thanks as they give thanks.
We promise as far as we are able to be with them as they pass through difficult times of life.

We will not turn from them in times of need.
We will sorrow as they sorrow, weep as they weep and hurt and they hurt.
This is our promise, our pledge and our gift to them this day and always.

 

Example 5

 

(Officiant);  (said to the guests)

Marriage is the bringing together of two circles of love to present a new circle of love. 

The bride's family and friends have supported her during her life, as the groom's family and friends have supported him through his life. 

 

Your love and support does not stop now that they will be married. 

We ask you, the people here today whose relationships have been honoured by your invitation to attend, to bless and nurture the marriage of (name & name).

 

We ask you to offer your loving support through all the days of their marriage (optional - and for the family they will create). 

If you are willing to do this, please say, 'We will" 

 

(Guests Response); We Will

BOUQUET GATHERING

 

This ritual of offering can be performed in two different parts of the ceremony.  Either at the very beginning, before the Bride enters the ceremony space.  Or, at some point through-out the ceremony, where the gathering can be done by both of the couple.

 

For example, at the Beginning;  The Bride starts by walking down the aisle with a few flowers in her hand.  At set points along her walk, various people who have played a significant role in her life give her flowers, which she adds to her bouquet until she gets to the top of the aisle.   Once at the top of the aisle, her Mum (or significant family member) ties a ribbon around the bouquet, before she turns to meet her partner. 

 

During the Ceremony; the Celebrant gives an introduction into the ritual, and can continue narrative advising what is happening. 

Or it can be done in silence (especially as an Entrance ritual) whilst music is being played.

 

The flowers themselves can hold special meaning – beit if they are favourites of the person giving, or perhaps in remembrance of people who are not able to attend the ceremony.

The chosen participants can say a blessing of well wishes if they want. 

 

 

EXAMPLE OF BOUQUET GATHERING

 

(Celebrant);  Flowers are a part of the most important days of our lives, in celebration, in love, or in times of sadness or loss.

Each flower here today represents what each of you bring to (Names) lives.

The stem bringing stability and strength, the petals bringing colour and joy to their lives, the leaves to remind them that life is full of changes so they give support, life and encouragement to grow.

 

As (Names) walk amongst you, the flowers will be offered with love and blessing to their unity.

ROSE EXCHANGE 

 

A symbol of love and beauty, the rose is the ideal flower to incorporate into a wedding. With various colors having different meanings, from love and friendship to new beginnings and passion, they can tell a story unique to your wedding.

 

There are many different ways to hold a Rose Ceremony, the idea is to create your own based on the traditional guidelines rather than following our instructions to the letter.

The bride and groom exchange two red roses, symbolizing the giving and receiving of their love for each other throughout their entire married life.

The Rose Ceremony also conveys how to use the rose and its symbolism in difficult times in order to forgive each other

Examples for Rose Exchange

 

Example 1

 

(Officiant):  Your first gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings - which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect and a public showing of your commitment to each other. In addition, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.

 

You now have what remains the most honorable title that exists between a woman and a man - the title of "wife" and "husband." It is now my great privilege to be the first to address you as wife and husband and for your first gift as wife and husband, that gift will be a single rose.

(Officiant hands each a rose)

 

The rose is considered a symbol of love and a single rose always means only one thing - it means, "I love you." So it is appropriate that for your first gift - as wife and husband - that gift would be a single rose.

 

Please exchange the roses as your first gift to each other as wife and husband. Within these rose buds, if given proper loving care, is the potential for an even more beautiful expression of Life and Love in the form of the mature flower. And so it is with your marriage. At this point your marriage is like these rose buds - ready, with proper loving care - to unfold into a very beautiful expression of life.

 

 

Example 2

 

(Groom) (as he hands his bride a long-stemmed white rose): (Name) take this rose as a symbol of my love. It began as a tiny bud and blossomed, just as my love has grown and blossomed for you.

 

(Bride) (as she places the rose into a bud vase filled with water): "I take this rose, a symbol of your love, and I place it into water, a symbol of life. For, just as this rose cannot survive without water, I cannot survive without you."


(Groom): In remembrance of this day, I will give you a white rose each year on our anniversary, as a reaffirmation of my love and the vows spoken here today.

 
(Bride): And I will refill this vase with water each year, ready to receive your gift, in reaffirmation of the new life you have given me and the vows spoken here today.


(Groom) (as he and his bride join hands around the rose-filled vase): And so, this rose will be a symbolic memory of my commitment to you this hour; I vow to be a faithful husband to you, to comfort you, honour you, respect you and cherish you for as long as we live.


(Bride): (as they continue to hold the vase together): And I commit myself to you, to be a faithful wife, to comfort you, honour you, respect you and cherish you for as long as we live.

 

Example 3

 

(Officiant):  Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings - which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other. You now have what remains the most honorable title which may exist between a man and a woman - the title of "husband" and "wife. For your first gift as husband and wife, that gift will be a single rose.


In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose always meant only one thing - it meant the words "I love you. So it is appropriate that for your first gift - as husband and wife - that gift would be a single rose. Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife.


In some ways it seems like you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small rose - and now you are holding one small rose. In some ways, a marriage ceremony is like this. In some ways, tomorrow is going to seem no different than yesterday. But in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.


I would ask that where ever you make your home in the future that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a recommitment to your marriage - and a recommitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love.


In every marriage there are times where it is difficult to find the right words. It is easiest to hurt those who we most love. It is easiest to be hurt by those who we most love. It might be difficult some time to be able to express the words "I am sorry" or "I forgive you" or "I need you" or "I am hurting". If this should happen, if you simply can not find these words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected - for that rose will say what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all other words.


That rose says the words: "I still love you. The other should accept this rose for the words which cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both share today.


If there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, remember that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure.