ON MARRIAGE, By Edmund O’Neill
Marriage is a commitment to life - to the best that two people can find and bring out in each other.
It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal, a joining that is promised for a lifetime.
Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships.
A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.
Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life.
When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words.
Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.
WITHIN MY BOOK OF MEMORIES
Within my book of memories are special thoughts of you, and all the many nice things you often say and do. As I turn the pages and recall each single thought, I realize the happiness that knowing you has brought.
There are memories of the times we’ve shared both bright and gloomy days. There are memories of your kindness and your friendly thoughtful ways. There are memories of your laughter and your bright and cheery smile, that add a bright note to each day and make life more worthwhile.
There are memories of the things we planned, each friendly little chat, when we would get together and just talk of this and that. And when I recall these memories I go along life’s way, and find they grow more precious still with every passing day.
LOVE ME BECAUSE
Love me because I try to touch life within the framework of uncertainty.
Love in me the shadows of my indecision as I strive to gain knowledge.
Love in me the silence of my hurts and the noise of my confusions.
Love me for the feeling of my heart not the fears of my mind.
Love me in my search for the truth though I may stumble upon fallacy.
Love me as I pursue my dreams sometimes retarded by illusions.
Love me as I grow to know myself even during the times of stagnation.
Love me because I seek God's harmony not man's discord.
Love me for my body that I wish to share with affection, wrapping you in warmth.
Love me because we are different as we are the same.
Love me that our time together will be spent in growing, kindling the world with understanding. Love me not with expectations but with hope.
I will love you the same.
LOVE IS NOT SIMPLY A RELATIONSHIP - Eric Fromm
Love is not simply a relationship to a specific person; It is an attitude; an orientation of character, which determines the relatedness of a person to the world as a whole, not toward one "object" of love. If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to the rest of his fellow person, this love is not love but a selfish attachment, or an enlarged egotism. If you truly love one person, you love all persons, you love the world, you love life. If you can say to somebody else, "I love you" you must be able to say, "I love through you the world, I love in you also myself.
I LOVE YOU by Carl Sandburg
I love you for what you are, but I love you yet more for what you are going to be.
I love you not so much for your realities as for your ideals.
I pray for your desires that they may be great, rather than for your satisfactions, which may be so hazardously little.
A satisfied flower is one whose petals are about to fall.
The most beautiful rose is one hardly more than a bud wherein the pangs and ecstasies of desires are working for larger and finer growth.
Not always shall you be what you are now.
You are going forward toward something great.
I am on the way with you and therefore I love you.
FROM THE GIFT OF THE SEA By Anne Morrow Lindbergh
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand.
We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity -- in freedom in the sense that dancers are free barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what it was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation but in living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.
Relationships must be like islands; one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits ... islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.
Want to laugh with you,
Learn with you,
Grow with you. I do…
Want to be with you All my life through,
For I love you with all of my heart,
And today I’m so happy to tell you… I do
LOVE IS A FRIENDSHIP THAT HAS CAUGHT FIRE
Love is a friendship that has caught fire.
It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving.
It is loyalty through good and bad.
It settles for less than perfection,
and makes allowances for human weakness.
Love is content with the present.
It hopes for the future and it doesn't brood over the past.
It's the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems,
compromises, small disappointments, big victories,
and working toward common goals.
If you have love in your life,
it can make up for a great many things you lack.
If you don't have it, no matter what else there is,
it is not enough, so search for it, ask for it, and share it!
When the one whose hand you’re holding
Is the one who holds your heart
When the one whose eyes you gaze into
Give your hopes and dreams their start
When the one you think of first and last,
Is the one who holds you tight
Find the things you plan together
Make the whole world seem just right
When the one whom you believe in
Puts their faith and trust in you
You’ve found the one and only love
You’ll share your whole life through
THE ART OF A GOOD MARRIAGE
By Wilfred Arlan Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
THE COVENANT OF MARRIAGE
Marriage has certain qualities of contract, in which two people take on the housekeeping tasks of living, together, to enhance life’s joy. However, marriage is more than a contract.
Marriage is a commitment to take that joy deep, deeper than happiness, deep into the discovery of who you most truly are.
It is a commitment to a spiritual journey, to a life of becoming -- in which joy can comprehend despair, running through rivers of pain into joy again. And thus marriage is even deeper than commitment. It is a covenant -- a covenant that says: I love you. I trust you. I will be here for you when you are hurting, And when I am hurting I will not leave.
It is a covenant intended not to provide haven from pain or anger and sorrow. Life offers no such haven. Instead, marriage is intended to provide a sanctuary safe enough to risk loving, to risk living and sharing from the center of oneself. This is worth everything.
TRIBUTE By Roy Croft
I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.
I love you for the part of me that you bring out.
I love you for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart, and passing over all the foolish and frivolous and weak things which you cannot help dimly seeing there, and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful, radiant belongings that no one else had looked quite far enough to find.
I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy.
I love you for ignoring the possibilities of the fool and weakling in me, and for laying firm hold on the possibilities of good in me.
I love you for closing your eyes to the discords in me, and for adding to the music in me by worshipful listening.
I love you because you are helping me to make of the lumber of my life not a tavern but a Temple, and of the words of my every day not a reproach but a song.
WHAT IS LOVE?
Love is just not looking at each other and saying "You're wonderful".
There are times when we are anything but wonderful.
Love is looking out in the same direction.
It is linking our strength to pull a common load.
It is pushing together towards the far horizons, hand in hand.
Love is knowing that when our strength falters, we can borrow the strength of someone who cares.
Love is a strange awareness that our sorrows will be shared and made lighter by sharing; that joys will be enriched and multiplied by the joy of another.
Love is knowing someone else cares that we are not alone in life.
THOUGHTS IN A GARDEN By R. Gerhardt
This is a special place, a place where people have brought beautiful living plants, here to establish them, to nurture and care for them, that they may forever surround us with the beauty we now see.
And into this place where we stand, you have brought something beautiful -- the relationship that is becoming your marriage.
Here you are declaring it and pledging it, promising to establish and nurture it.
We are aware of the special beauty between the two of you, just as we are aware of the special beauty of this place. We are with you now in this appropriate place to celebrate your relationship as it is and as it is yet to be, and in doing so, we ask only that you remember how your life together will have the same seasons and needs as this garden.
There will be growth like spring and loss like fall; there will be giving as the blossoming flower, and rest as the seed beneath the snow. All the seasons will be yours, but remember, too, that gardens are not must happenings.
The more wonderful the garden, the more skilled the gardener. So you will have to care deeply for the life that is yours together, and nurture it. You will have to appreciate your differences and cultivate them. You will have to take care of yourself, if for no other reason than out of love for the other.
And you will need the support of family and friends to reach full growth. As you caringly chose this place to declare your marriage, so remember its lessons for your life together through the seasons that are yours to share. And may those seasons bring you and yours joy and happiness.
TWO SOULS, ONE LIFE by L. W. Orndorff
Before the heavens and the earth, when we were still a part of the Great Spirit, you and I asked for a journey to be remembered for all time. Out of Love our hearts desires answered and we were granted these lives.
Today we fulfill that destiny and begin the journey of a lifetime. We were once one soul, then we became two, and were born into this world. We have lived lives separate. Now let us give thank to the Great Spirit for loving us enough to allow our love for each other to be expressed. yesterday we were two souls, today we are one life.
LOVE IS A GREAT THING by Thomas à Kempis
Love is a great thing, yea, a great and thorough good. By itself it makes that is heavy light; and it bears evenly all that is uneven.
It carries a burden which is no burden; it will not be kept back by anything low and mean; it desires to be free from all wordly affections, and not to be entangled by any outward prosperity, or by any adversity subdued.
Love feels no burden, thinks nothing of trouble, attempts what is above its strength, pleads no excuse of impossibility. It is therefore able to undertake all things, and it completes many things, and warrants them to take effect, where he who does not love would faint and lie down.
Though weary, it is not tired; though pressed it is not straitened; though alarmed, it is not confounded; but as a living flame it forces itself upwards and securely passes through all.
Love is active and sincere, courageous, patient, faithful, prudent and manly.
A TOUCH OF HEART
There was a time ... a moment I felt all alone but then the sun shined upon me bearing gifts of love, friendship and harmony Everlasting love shared and expressed through you to me. The prayers, the cares, the gestures brought forth to me heal my soul For at times I'd only known to give but failed to accept and receive with grace. I'm not alone now for your warmth overwhelms me your spirit fills my sour, and I am ALIVE with your love.
ROADS GO EVER EVER ON - by J.R.R Tolkien
Roads go ever ever on,
Over rock and under tree,
By caves where never sun has shone,
By streams that never find the sea;
Over snow by winter sown,
And through the merry flowers of June,
Over grass and over stone,
And under mountains in the moon.
Roads go ever ever on
Under cloud and under star,
Yet feet that wandering have gone
Turn at last to home afar.
Eyes that fire and sword have seen
And horror in the halls of stone
Look at last on meadows green
And trees and hills they long have known.
AN EXCERPT FROM "THE MASTER SPEED
By Robert Frost
Two such as you with such a master speed
cannot be parted nor be swept away
from one another once you are agreed
that life is only life forevermore
together wing to wing and oar to oar. I fell in love with all of you
Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all things they have longed for; companionship, intimacy, friendship, love etc..
The truth is, that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out.
There is no love in marriage. Love is in people. And people put love in marriage
There is no romance in marriage. You have to infuse it into your marriage
A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising, to keep the box full.
If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty
I FELL IN LOVE WITH ALL OF YOU
I didn’t just fall in love with the best of you,
The way your eyes light up the room
The way your laugh makes me smile
The way your hand fits in mine
The way your personality stands out
The way your smile gives me butterflies
Or the way your body moves
I fell in love with all of you
I fell in love with your scars
The way you make sarcastic remarks
The way you feel helpless at 2am
The way you cry about something from years ago
The way you can sometimes get angry
Or the way you sometimes want to be alone
I fell in love with all of you
I fell in love with the great in you
And I fell in love with the “bad” you see in yourself
But the bad you see, is the great that I see
Because I love every part of you
I fell in love with all of you.
BABY YOU’RE THE ONE - By Bernie Taupin
I saw you dancing out on the ocean running fast along the sand
A spirit born of earth and water
Fire flying from your hands
In the instant that you love someone
In the second that the hammer hits
Reality runs up your spine
And the pieces finally fit
All I ever needed was the one
Like freedom feels where wild horses run
When stars collide like you and I
No shadows block the sun
You are all I have ever needed
Baby, you’re the one
I hope the days come easy and the moments pass slow
And each road leads you where you want to go
And if you’re faced with the choice and you have to choose
I hope you choose the one that means the most to you
And if one door opens to another door closed
I hope you keep on walkin’ ‘til you find the window
If it’s cold outside, show the world the warmth of your smile
But more than anything, more than anything
My wish for you
Is that this life becomes all that you want it to
Your dreams stay big, your worries stay small
You never need to carry more than you can hold
And while you’re out there gettin’ where you’re gettin’ to
I hope you know somebody loves you
And wants the same things too
Yeah, this is my wish
I hope you never look back but you never forget
All the ones who love you
And the place you left
I hope you always forgive and you never regret
And you help somebody every chance you get
Oh, you find God’s grace in every mistake
And always give more than you take
But more than anything, yeah more than anything
This is my wish
I hope you know somebody loves you
May all your dreams stay big
TO BE ONE WITH EACH OTHER - By George Eliot
What greater thing is there for two human souls
than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen
each other in all labour, to minister to each other in all sorrow,
to share with each other in all gladness,
to be one with each other in the
silent unspoken memories?
I TAKE YOU AS MY PARTNER
I take you as my partner, my friend and my love.
My hopes and dreams will now be intermingled with yours.
I will seek to balance my needs with those of our community and family.
I will openly draw from our combined experience
and feelings in our search for truth and meaning.
I will strive for harmony through compromise and understanding.
I will be forgiving, but not complacent.
From this day forward, I take shared responsibility
for our marriage, family, community and myself,
regardless of our successes or failures.
I promise to be faithful and true to you in mind,
body, and spirit; to cherish you and respect you;
and to be a source of comfort and encouragement,
free and bound by our love, as long as we shall live.
MARRIAGE IS THE CLOSEST KIND OF FRIENDSHIP
Marriage is the closest kind of friendship.
Years of traffic wear away the lines
Between two souls with similar designs,
Ending more in unity than kinship.
Separate actors must play separate parts:
They must alone be riveted by need.
Far beneath that soil a single seed
Roots itself, tenacious in their hearts.
In love there is a trust beyond the word.
Each finds peace in each, as though the light
Needed the tranquillity of night,
Deeper than what silence can be heard.
I’D CHOOSE YOU by Kiersten White
I didn't fall in love with you.
I walked into love with you, with my eyes wide open,
choosing to take every step along the way.
I do believe in fate and destiny,
but I also believe we are only fated to do the things that we'd choose anyway.
And I'd choose you;
in a hundred lifetimes,
in a hundred worlds,
in any version of reality,
I'd find you and I'd choose you
THE VOWS I TAKE WILL BE FOREVER
by Nicholas Gordon
The vows I take will be forever.
I'll love you all my life.
There's no part way, no holding back
Once we are man and wife. The choice is made, and now I swim
In a far different sea,
The shores of which are bright green hills
Raised up for you and me. Our love is like a mountainside
Awash in lovely flowers:
It is our home, our solid rock,
Where all bright things are ours. And though of need we often must
Spend our days apart,
Our love will always be with us,
Held within the heart.
I feel it now, so strong and free,
So part of every breath
That it must live - I swear it will!
Even after death.
THE VOWS YOU HAVE JUST TAKEN PLEDGING LOVE – by Nicholas Gordon
The vows you have just taken, pledging love,
Mean far more than words can ever mean.
May their gentle spirit in you move.
May your years fulfill the beauty of the feelings whose expression we've just seen,
The vows that you have taken, pledging love.
And may you always put these vows above the things that make life smaller and more mean.
May their gentle spirit in you move.
May your children know the power of
These words to shape a world that's sane and clean,
These vows that you have taken, pledging love.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE – by Nicholas Gordon
Thank you for your friendship and your love.
However life may turn, this gift will be
A mountain that has made my river bend,
Nor will it flow the same way to the sea.
Knowing you is something I'm made of.
Years will not this part of me remove
One lives for just a brief eternity,
Understanding truths that never end.
MARRIAGE IS THE UNION OF.... – by Nicholas Gordon
Marriage is the union of
A greater sum than two in love.
Relatives are made by vows,
Relating endless fields and plows.
In bringing families together,
A million lives are changed forever.
Go then in joy, yourselves to please:
Each love shapes many destinies.
ALL MY HAPPINESS GOES OUT TO YOU
by Nicholas Gordon
All my happiness goes out to you:
Pride and pleasure, joy, sweet tears, and love!
Reason, hope, and faith together move
In harmony to bless all that you do.
Let this beginning be the golden dawn
At which all dew-drenched nature sings its glory!
Nor should the darkness shrouding every story
Dim the blue-eyed beauty of this morn.
More of life will come than you can hold:
A flood no mortal witness can withstand.
Rest, then, within a quiet, gentle hand,
Knowing where love is as you grow old.
ON YOUR WEDDING DAY AS YOU TRADE VOWS
by Nicholas Gordon
On your wedding day, as you trade vows,
No ordinary moment hurries by.
You partake, as far as time allows,
Of something more than time and Earth and sky.
Unknowable, invisible, yet there;
Resplendent to the heart if not the face;
More than both of you, yet less than air;
A transcendental act conferring grace.
Reason might say, How can this be true?
Return then to the heart, for this is love.
In making vows, you make one out of two,
A mystery beyond what words can prove.
Go then as one flesh, one home, one heart.
Each still a whole, yet also now a part.
I WILL BE HERE - by Steven Curtis Chapman
If in the morning when you wake,
If the sun does not appear,
I will be here.
If in the dark we lose sight of love,
Hold my hand and have no fear,
I will be here.
I will be here,
When you feel like being quiet,
When you need to speak your mind I will listen.
Through the winning, losing, and trying we’ll be together,
And I will be here.
If in the morning when you wake,
If the future is unclear,
I will be here.
As sure as seasons were made for change,
Our lifetimes were made for years,
I will be here.
I will be here,
And you can cry on my shoulder,
When the mirror tells us we’re older.
I will hold you, to watch you grow in beauty,
And tell you all the things you are to me.
We’ll be together and I will be here.
I will be true to the promises I’ve made,
To you and to the one who gave you to me.
I will be here
I PROMISE YOU
I can’t promise you that dark clouds will never hover over our lives, or that the future will bring us many rainbows.
I can’t promise you that tomorrow will be perfect or that life will be easy.
I can promise you my everlasting devotion, my loyalty, my respect, and my unconditional love for a lifetime.
I can promise that I’ll always be here for you to listen and to hold your hand, and I’ll always do my best to make you happy and feel loved.
I can promise that I’ll see you through any crisis and pray with you, dream with you, build with you, and always cheer you on and encourage you.
I can promise that I’ll willingly be your protector, your advisor, your counsellor, your friend, your family, your everything.
I promise you.
FIVE SIMPLE RULES TO BE HAPPY
Free your heart from hatred
Free your mind from worries
No-one can go back and make a brand new start.
Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
God didn’t promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain –
but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way.
Disappointments are like road humps – they slow you down a bit, but you enjoy the smooth road afterwards. Don’t stay on the humps too long. Move on!
When you feel down because you didn’t get what you want, just sit tight and be happy, because God has thought of something better to give you.
When something happens to you, good or bad, consider what it means.
There’s a purpose to life’s events….
To teach you how to laugh more or not to cry too hard.
You can’t make someone love you; all you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to the person to realize your worth.
It’s better to lose your pride to the one you love, than to lose the one you love because of pride.
We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding fault with those we already love – when instead, we should be perfecting the love we give.
Never abandon an old friend.
You will never find one who can take his or her place.
Friendship is like wine – it gets better as it grows older.
FOR NOW by Tracey Emin
Hurry - But do not hurry me,
Push - But do not push me,
Hold - But do not crush me’
Love - But do not change me
Let us stay the way we are
Devour - But do not consume me,
Thrill - But do not frighten me,
Excite - But do not scare me.
Teach - But do not change me
Let us learn from the way we are
Kiss - But do not smother me,
Embrace - But do not break me,
Adore - But do not suffocate me,
Love - Let me love you
Just the way you are
LOVE POEM by Rumi Jelaludin Rumi
"Lo, I am with you always" means
when you look for God
God is in the look of your eyes,
In the thought of looking,
Nearer to you than your self,
Or things that have happened to you.
The full moon is inside of you.
There's no need to go outside.
A fig grows in the silence -
Let your speech become that fruit.
I need a mouth as wide as the sky
To say the nature of a True Person -
Language as large as longing.
The body is only a device
To calculate the astronomy of the spirit.
The truth is - God is speaking through this body.
Say yes - Say, YES.
ON MARRIAGE - by Kahlil Gibran
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
IN MY FUTURE I SEE YOU AND ME by Emma Salmon
In my future I see you and me,
And a house and garden filled with trees.
I see dinner parties surrounded by friends,
And a vegetable patch we love to tend.
I see cosy nights in front of the fire,
And a four-poster bed for when we tire.
I see our kitchen which will be the heart of the home,
And a Victorian bath brimming with foam.
I see muddy wellies by the front door,
And the kids eating cookies and asking for more.
I see nights in the garden camping under the stars,
And shelves full of mismatching local jam jars.
I see family picnics outside with the dog,
And a little blue shed containing the logs.
I see us sat by the window watching the snow,
And reading the papers and learning to grow.
I see pictures of family in quirky frames,
And letters on the kids' doors spelling out their names.
I see laughter, pain, kisses and tears,
And helping each other to confront our fears.
I see you as my friend and also my lover,
Your confidant and your children’s mother.
I see a wonderful future for you and I,
And it's cloaked in love until we die.